Watch out for red flags! Do you know what those red flags are? Or are you wondering, what is a red flag? Well, red flags are those bad behaviours that occur in relationships that people usually try to justify, even though their gut feeling tells them something is wrong.
An unhealthy relationship is something that you need to avoid. If someone is not treating you right, or giving you respect, you need to seriously consider whether or not you should be staying in a relationship with them. There are certain red flags that can show up early on in a relationship that, when ignored, end up being a relationship’s downfall.
Here are some of those red flags that occur in relationships:
1. LACK OF COMMUNICATION:
If your partner finds it difficult to talk to you about any issues or differences you both have, and does not tell you how they feel, you may be in an unhealthy relationship. You and your partner should be able to listen to each other and discuss each other’s feelings in a calm and respectable way.
2. CONTROLLING BEHAVIOUR:
In an unhealthy relationship, your partner may want to control you. This could be controlling where you go, who you talk to or who you go out with etc. Sometimes, when someone is controlling you, they may be manipulative and make you choose between your loved ones and them as they feel that this will prove your love.
3. NEVER APOLOGISING:
In a relationship, both partners need to be able to accept blame and apologise for it. Without apologising, fights and disagreements will not be resolved which could lead to resentment and stress. If your partner is wrong, they need to accept that, apologise, and move on.
4. THEY TREAT YOU OR THEIR FAMILY BADLY:
When someone is rude to you or their family, it should most likely ring alarm bells for you and get you thinking about what they will be like in a long-term relationship. The family members are often the closest people to you, so if your partner treats their own family badly, this is not a good sign.
5. THEY GUILT TRIP YOU: If your partner always pushes the blame on you, or makes you feel guilty about something you did not do, or should even feel guilty about, they are causing you stress and grief.
6. THEY ARE NOT THERE FOR YOU IN TIMES OF NEED:
If your partner is emotionally unavailable most of the time, and especially when you need someone to be there for you, this could be a relationship red flag. Your partner needs to be someone who you can depend on and talk to when you need them. If they will not do this, this is a big relationship red flag.
7. THEY ENJOY THE DRAMA OF FIGHTING:
Your partner tends to argue a lot. Fighting constantly is not healthy, and your partner should instead want to talk things over and resolve these issues instead of constantly making them. Remember that you deserve respect, and a good partner would want to talk about any issues you have in a respectable way.
9. THEY DISRESPECT YOU:
If your partner constantly calls you names or belittles you and disrespects you, they are not a nice person – and how they act is nothing to do with you, but with them. In relationships, you can have arguments and disagreements. This is a natural thing, but you must learn to resolve your issues and talk about them so that there are no problems. You need to know that you need to be treated as an equal, and with the same respect as you give them, otherwise you cannot have a healthy relationship.
10. THE SILENT TREATMENT.
If you do not do what they want, they will simply stop talking to you – act as though you do not exist. This is one of the most painful types of punishment.
11. THEY DO NOT PUT EFFORT INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
If one person is not as invested in the relationship as the other, then it is a “lose-lose” situation. Save yourself time and have the courage to find someone who will make you a priority in their life.
Remember: You can lose yourself trying to hold on to someone who does not care about losing you. If something on the inside is telling you that someone is not right for you, they are NOT. And when it is not – it is time to go.
